5:15 am. I heard a little voice next to my ear.
“Mommy, can you put Brother in his crib so I can sleep with you?”
Simple enough request. But you must understand that we have been co-sleeping with Evin for 5 months now and if I move him away from human contact, he wakes up immediately and refuses to go back to sleep. (OK, I haven’t really tried to break him of this too hard. I enjoy cuddling too much.) So we all shift around and get her into the bed too. After 30 minutes of laying here, singing quietly to herself, Selina finally asks me lay with her in her bed. Fine, I say. Anything to get another hour of sleep.
Then 8:30 rolls around and my husband peeks his head in the doorway and says “Don’t you have to be somewhere?” Oh yeah, the pumpkin patch with Selina’s class. I should have started getting ready to go a half hour ago.
The next two hours goes something like this “Whine, whine, whine, fake cry, real cry and some more whining.” I threaten not going to the field trip. This, unfortunately, does not make things better, only worse. How do I get it to stop?
Then it hit me. (This is where you want to start taking notes.) We’re going to have a Quiet Day. Everything we do has to be quiet, calm and not hurried. Of course, Selina sees this as a game and has to tattle on Evin every time he starts to cry. So far today, we’ve had a leasurly stroll through a corn maze, made bread and hot coco and ate lunch as a family (with Daddy at his work!). The plan for after nap is to make dinner, scrub toilets and play dolls on the floor.
Whenever my kids get cranky, whiny or all out grouchy, I have to remind myself that they’re not being upset just to be upset, something is wrong with them. They are either hungry, tired, sick or they need some Mommy time away from everyone else. Today, when Selina asked me to climb in bed with her, it gave me a clue. She needs me. And she needs all of my eyes, ears, mind and heart. She knows that she has to share me with Brother, but today was a day that I needed to be with her and not rush her to do anything.
Here are some good Quiet Day activities that we love:
Make hot coco, then sip it slowly while reading a bunch of books.
Make a pillow and blanket fort. Grab a flashlight and some books. Read aloud.
Take a pan. Put a bunch of baking soda in it. (We used the whole box.) Take vinegar and put it into little bowls. Add food coloring to the vinegar. Use a dropper or syringe to drop the colors on the white baking soda. Watch reaction. Enjoy quiet for at least 30 minutes.
Anything arts and crafty.
Quiet Day is something that you really have to commit to. Kids know when you’re bored and they’re going to start acting up again. This is a solution that works for my family. Maybe it will work for yours.
Also, for those who are keeping track, no fast food has been consumed in 1 whole week. I am so proud of us.