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Why I Bother with Babywearing

I have two children. They are three and a half years apart. Obviously I’ve done a lot of things differently with Little E than I did with his sissy.  One of the biggest changes is that I wear E quite a lot.

evin

Now please understand that I know babywearing is not for everyone and I am not here to tell you that you should, however I feel that everyone should at least try it.  Trying it may change your life.

The main reason I wear E is out of convenience.   When Selina was little, the house was always a mess.  I just thought “Oh well, that’s how life is when you have small children.”  Never did I think, “Oh! If I just wear her, I could do the dishes.”  For some reason, when Evin was just a few weeks old, I went out (spur of the moment) and bought a wrap.  I read the directions and wore him around the house that day.  Do you know how well he slept?  And do you know how much I got done that day?  My living room AND kitchen were sparkling clean for the first time in WEEKS. Then, a friend showed me a better way to wrap him and life was good.  For a while.

Then E started growing.  Six months later, he doesn’t really care for being carried in the front.  He wants to see everything.  So I desperately facebooked my friend who had showed me how to wrap him.  “I need a new carrier.  Please help me.  My house is falling apart without one.”  “Come right over” she said.  She pulled out all of her carriers and we found the perfect one for us.

Not only did my friend drop everything for me, but she even called a local little store to see if they had any in and the cost.  They sure did.  And they were on MEGA sale.  She then took me down to the store (which I would have NEVER found by myself) and I bought E his Christmas present.

We tried it out for the first time today and holy cow.  I made coffee and bread.  I put away all of the clean dishes and washed up the ones that were used last night.  I then made our bed and bagged up the bathroom trash.  I then wandered into the kitchen to start the crockpot for dinner and I glanced at the clock.  Was that REALLY the time?  How on earth was I 45 minutes ahead of schedule?!?!?  Oh, that’s right.  Because I wasn’t tending to a crying baby every 5 minutes.  My word, this carrier is wonderful.

So, if you have a small child and still need to get things done, I suggest finding a carrier that works well for you and your kid.

Either that, or get a child-rearing robot that holds that baby for you when you have to wash the dishes….

Actually, get a robot that does the dishes instead.

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Having a Home Where Small Children Live, AKA “Holy Cow my house is a mess”

Late last night, my husband says “I’m having a few friends come over tomorrow night. Around 6. OK?”

“Sure” I say.  “I’ll clean up the living room and kitchen at the very least.  Hmmm… Selina’s got a doctor check up in the morning.  And I need to pick up our nephew from school.  And we’ve got to stop by the alterations place.  And grocery shopping. And birthday present. And baths. And meals. I’m sure I can get everything done.”  I look over at my husband… he’s fast asleep. Oh well.

 

As soon as we get up in the morning, reality sets in.  I must have had a momentary lapse of judgement where I thought I was 21 and childless again. There is no way on God’s green earth this will all get done.  I must pick and choose. The rest of it was going to take a back seat and we’ll see if we even get near there…

To my credit, I got everything done, except for baths.  To my husband’s credit, he cleaned the living room when he got home from work and he saw that nothing had changed. Hey, it was his friends who were on their way.

 

As I was rushing through my day, I came to the realization that, with two small children and a full-time job, my house will never be actually clean.  In fact, I can’t even pretend it’s somewhat under control.  I’m barely treading water.  Actually, it’s worse than that.  I’ve got only my nose above the water.  I can barely breath and I’m frantically trying to get my eyeballs out as well. But at the end of the day, as long as I can say I’ve used my time well, then I can go to sleep happy.  And today, I used my time extremely well.

Also today, I implemented a routine that I’ve been using the past week.  I call it “Power Hour.”  I have a very large problem getting Selina to do her chores without hysterically breaking down like it’s the end of the world.  So every morning, we’ve been sitting down with a color crayon in hand and a very colorful piece of paper before us.  I write down the chore and she “draws” a corresponding picture.  Please keep in mind that she’s 4.  So her drawing skills are more like stick figures, but she knows exactly what she means.  Then we set the timer for one hour, I strap Evin on, and we start on our lists.  Today, her list consisted of scrubbing the toilets (for the 3rd time this week), washing the bathroom mirror, sweeping the kitchen, picking up all of her toys in the living room, and washing the kitchen table.  Once she has finished her chores, she may go play in her room quietly for the remainder of the hour while I keep working on my chore list.  And there is almost no whining about it.  It’s fantastic.  However, there are some rules if you’re going to use this idea:

1. Do not make this list more than 5 things long for young children.  It’s too daunting and then nothing will get done.

2. Take the time to actually show them how to do the job.  Work with the child several times before letting them go on their own.

3. Check their progress often.

4. Use compliments as compliments.  No “buts.” And be specific about the compliment.   For example,  Don’t say a general “Great job”.  Say “Great job lining up your shoes in the closet.”  And “Great job picking up your clothes”  should end there.  Don’t add a “but you forgot a sock.”  Let your child know that you see that they are trying and, for the most part, succeeding.

5. Do not go back over what your child has done in order to correct it.  They will see you do that and understand that they did not do a good enough job.  My toilets get cleaned every couple of days for a reason.  I know that Selina is 4 and does not clean the toilet very well in one go.  But if she does it 3 or 4 times per week, then the chances of it actually getting cleaned like if I were doing it, are much greater.

6. Use bribery.  Selina has 2 little fishbowls with popsicle sticks.  Sticks go in the reward bowl if she doesn’t whine about chores, but get taken out if she does.  Once she gets all 20 sticks in the reward bowl, she gets a special treat.  Right now she’s working towards a special Snow White doll and house.

 

Follow the simple rules and you will be well on your way to children who not only do their chores and help you out, but are learning to do it with a glad heart.  And that’s what child rearing is all about: the state of your child’s heart.

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